Back From PTO

So I just got back from a long stretch of being on PTO, and I’ll say it felt amazing! The way I scheduled my off days fell in perfectly with the holidays. I highly recommend doing that for all you working moms out there. The only issue is when you have a young child, it’s hard for them to understand that returning to work now means crunch time, especially when you work from home. Don’t get me wrong; I’ve been the mom that had to leave and go to the office too. That was extremely difficult for me, so finding a work-from-home job was an absolute blessing.

The problem with working from home with a young child after you have been on PTO for so long is that they expect you to keep going like you don’t have to go back to work. Here’s the thing, I would love to be a stay-at-home mom with my child, but a two-working-parent household is ideal for us right now. According to The Atlantic, as of 2015 two, parent households where both parents are working full time made up 46% of the population. I’m sure that number has gone up by now. Usually, I would explain to my child the night before that mom is back from PTO and I have to work again. Moreso in a way she can understand, though.

About Last Night

Last night, however, was a little rough. We were watching My Girl; you know the movie with Macaulay Culkin and Anna Chlumsky? While watching it, our power went out. My child (like most children) is scared of the dark and bummed about the movie. I decided to make the most of it.

I gathered the flashlights, and we played shadow puppets until bedtime. Getting ready for bed was a catastrophe. It’s nighttime and warm out, so it’s hot in the bedroom, and my daughter is scared by it being so dark. So you can understand how I didn’t get to talk to her about returning to work.

Present day

This morning she woke up when she heard me getting up. At first, I thought, “Oh no, she’s probably thinking I am getting up to lounge around in the living room.” Boy, was I right! She springs up, runs past me as though she’s looking for me, and goes into the living room. To put things into perspective, my daughter is a night owl. She’s been that way since she was a baby because her father and I worked nights. She expected to talk to her dad or me before bed each night and didn’t fall asleep until she did.

So, with the power outage making bedtime worse (what a way to come back from PTO, right). Poor baby, I knew she was still tired when she came in. I also knew it would be a problem getting her to lay back down, knowing I was up. So her father, my boyfriend, ended up waking up and getting her to go back to bed (by the way, if you’re new to my blog, you can read about my family and catch a photo here). I had to move some things around and use the bathroom, and that’s when it began.

The Great Debate

My daughter, who is probably similar to your child, is also great at debating. In my household, we believe in letting our child express herself and respectfully tell us how she feels. It helps her to feel like she has a voice as well. However, after she is done venting, we usually tell her I understand that you feel that way, but this is how it is. I heard her father explain that I was working and needed to be alone to get my work done.

Convinced that I wasn’t working, unfortunately, she wasn’t hearing that. Once my daughter feels strongly about something, there’s no way to tell her the opposite of what she’s thinking. Having a strong mind is one of my child’s characteristics; I love that about her, in this case, not so much. So she persuaded her father to let her come into where I was and see for herself.

A Win-Win

Once she entered my work area, she wanted me to get up and cuddle. I tried to explain that I had to work and that mommy couldn’t stop what she was doing to cuddle and play. What I said went in one ear, and all she heard was mommy wouldn’t give her any attention. Her lip started poking out, and I could see the sadness on her face. It was time to think quickly on my feet. Being a mom, that’s one of my best qualities. I am lucky enough to take a break whenever I want, so I decided to take a 15. I brought her in close and made her an offer she couldn’t refuse.

Today has been a rainy morning which is our favorite. My child would only lay back down if we made a bargain. Going outside and playing in the rain until it was time to go inside then she would lie down. We splashed in the puddles outside, but then she wanted to go on a walk. Knowing that it would make her happy, why not? We have time; let’s go!

Taking That Time

On our walk, I got to explain to her that mommy was returning to work, and I know it can be hard to understand. She then began to express her feelings about how she wished I didn’t have to work, and I got to explain how necessary my return to work was. Those with young children know this will not be our last conversation about me working. At least we got over one hurdle today, and I spent time with her, which is my big priority.

Yes, I need to work, but my family and my child are more important to me, making sure she’s okay. Work will be there when you get back. Sometimes, it’s best to walk away for a second. Of course, I was spending time with my child being on PTO, but just because I’m returning from PTO doesn’t mean I can neglect my child’s needs. What’s something you do to help your child understand that it’s time for mommy to get back to work? How do you handle the stress when you’re trying to buckle down and work, and your child has other intentions? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Published by teaurane

Welcome to all the moms out there! My name is Lamoney but you can come me Money. Yes, it's pronounced exactly like what you have in your pocket. I am a mother of a beautiful 5-year-old daughter, I work in health care, and I have an awesome boyfriend. Join me as I talk with you about my journey through life and motherhood.

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