So, my daughter had a doctor’s appointment the other day, and I’ve had to remind her father for the past week and a half before it happened. The last time I mentioned it, she asked me if she had to get shots. Quick sidebar there are certain things that I won’t lie to my child about. I tell her the truth and deal with the consequences afterward, such as her crying or lashing out. I let her express herself, and then I tell her. Look, this is what’s going on, honey. I’m sorry, and I know you’re scared, but it’s got to happen, and explain why.
That made me wonder, do parents lie to their children? Don’t get me wrong; I tell my child that Santa is real, the Easter bunny, and the tooth fairy (go ahead and say it, liar, liar pants on fire) if you don’t, that’s your prerogative. Other than that, I don’t. If she wants something and we can’t afford it, I tell her, “I don’t have the money right now. You’ll have to wait.” If she wants to go somewhere, I tell her, “We not doing that today because I’m tired. I will see how I feel tomorrow. “If her inquisitive mind asks me something like babies come from pregnant mom’s bellies. (Thank goodness she hasn’t asked me how they got there yet). Even when she does, I feel like I won’t lie and tell her about the stork or anything. I might say I’ll let you know when you’re older.
Let’s get to the facts.
I know you’re going to make up your mind about what you want to tell your child. However, I love looking things up that I am curious about and will shoot out facts in a minute. So, from what I found in an article from February 2020, it states, “A new study found that when parents lie to their kids (even little white lies), their kids are more likely to tell lies as adults. New research suggests that lying to our kids, even those little white lies that help us with discipline, makes it more likely for our kids to hide the truth when they get older.”
Now, if you want to read more about what they are saying, you can do so here. In my opinion, I stated that I don’t really lie to my child, but I find that my child lies to me anyway. Once I catch her in the lie, I explain to her how it’s not good to lie and how telling one is terrible (a little hypocritical, I know). This doesn’t stop her from thinking she can say to another one, though. So, you do what you with that article, you will. If you want to take it with a grain of salt, you can or let that be the parenting advice for you and how you decide to parent your child.
Do what you want with your child.
I never try to claim myself to be an expert in parenting. I won’t ever try to tell you that you should do something. As the saying goes, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. The only thing I will ever do is tell you what I do now. That is give you the facts on what they say you should do. At the end of the day, you know your child more than anyone else. So you should 100% parent your child how you see fit. What do you think? How do you feel about lying to children? How do you handle a doctor’s appointment with your kids? Let me know in the comments.