I know I’ve been gone for a while, five months. I know my readers have probably missed me but just know the hiatus was much needed. So, I’m going to paint a picture for you… It’s the middle of the day, and you just put your baby down for a nap. It’s finally time to have your alone time. As soon as you sit down and rest your body, you hear it. It’s that sound that no parent wants to hear when it’s time to relax.
Yup, your child has woken up, and they’re whining. Now it’s up to you to figure out what’s wrong with your child as quickly as possible if you want to have your alone time again. You go down your list of steps to do like you feed them, change them, make sure they’re not gassy, but they still won’t seem to calm down. (More on the list of what to do with a fussy baby and how to soothe a baby here). I’m sure you have one secret weapon you are saving for the last minute to soothe your baby.
My Secret Weapon
When my child was a newborn, the same scenario happened to me. I went down the same list, and just like you, it all was an epic fail. I was getting desperate, and to be honest, when it comes to the cry it out method, I am a little bit on the fence. Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay for a short period, but I don’t want my baby crying too long; that’s just my opinion. I thought to myself, okay, I will have to think outside the box here. Nothing is working, and your baby is crying.
So, the only thing I could think of was to bounce my baby twice, put her up in the air a little and down, then push her out and closer to my chest. I know it sounds crazy, maybe even a bit unorthodox but guess what? It worked! That little bit of movement really kept her quiet and happy. One day I took my child to my friend’s house so she could babysit, and I told her about my method. Wouldn’t you know she didn’t believe me until my baby started crying and she had to do it herself?
Let’s talk about how easy fathers have it. All my boyfriend had to do was take off his shirt, get our daughter down to her diaper, and do skin to skin. Something so simple meanwhile, I’m pulling my hair out, trying to figure out how to calm her down. It occurred to me that my new readers might be thinking, just do skin to skin with your daughter as your boyfriend does. Well, I would, but since I breastfeed, that would only make her want milk, which would defeat the purpose of my alone time.
I tell new moms all the time being a mother isn’t easy. You’ll find that many things will come easy to fathers, but when mothers do the same thing, it has zero effect. It’s annoying to watch it all unfold. It’s like that saying, you know, “What’s good for the good is not always good for the gander.” Well, this same saying applies to parenthood as well. What works for the dad may not work for the mom, and that’s okay. It’s all about trial and error. How do you soothe your baby? What methods have you tried that work for you and your baby? Let’s share techniques in the comments below so that we may help a new mom out there.